Anti-Bullying Week: A victim’s thoughts
This week is Anti-Bullying Week. This is such an important issue that needs to have so much more coverage than a week – it’s a daily issue that affects so many lives both young and old, and hurts everyone involved. It’s unpleasant, it’s vicious, it’s atrocious.
It needs to stop, but it won’t.
For most of my life, I was quiet and small. An ‘easy target’, I guess. I was continually bullied through most of high school. From mean girls picking on me in the toilets, to my chair being kicked in class, it couldn’t get any more stereotypical.
I would just keep quiet, and not say anything. I knew that they would want retaliation, as that’s why people are bullies. To make someone hurt as much as they hurt on the inside. People aren’t born bullies, there is some reason why they have this anger inside of them that they feel they need to take out on others.
Eventually, I did get to a point where I just stopped tolerating it. I’d turn around to the people kicking my chair and ask them why they needed to do that. I’d ask one of my bullies why he felt the need to be so awful. They did stop when they realised it wasn’t making me upset, and I was looking down on them rather than it being the other way around.
I have been quite lucky to come from a very loving family background, with people always looking after me and wanting to keep me in their lives. Whenever I got bullied, I could go home and cry and have a hug and a cup of tea and my favourite meal and it would all be okay again. I could work up the courage to face the day.
What these bullies clearly lack is empathy and care, as you do inherit your family’s traits and work out what is right or wrong from them. My little brother has a boy in his year who was arrested for drinking beer in the park – he was eight at the time. This boy also is known to be extremely violent and is a hair away from being expelled. A boy so young clearly is troubled, but not because he is a horrible person – because he likely has a nasty background.
Instead of telling people ‘not to bully’, and telling the victims to ‘tell a teacher’, for the bully to then get told off and for the cycle to continue, there should be more looked into as to why people bully – especially with children and young people. These campaigns should provide hotlines and detailed advice as to what the bully should do when they are having a difficult time at home, and then take it out on others. Or for those who don’t realise what they are doing, for PSHE lessons to indicate signs of why people become bullies and offer support within the school.
Shouting doesn’t get anyone anywhere. It just hurts people more. The bullies know that, and so do the victims. Let’s implement better ways of resolving this never-ending issue.